Posts Tagged ‘Are You Ready’

Economy hits “snooze” on biological clock

Thursday, February 19th, 2009

biological-clockLike most of my girlfriends, I had some vague idea as to when I wanted to start a family. I knew I wanted to be married for a few years and enjoy the time my husband and I had together. Then, we’d eventually make our way into parenthood when we “grew up” and were ready to have a baby. But with the state of things today, I find myself holding off on our plans to have a family until things start to turn around.

One of my girlfriends was laid off the week she began her maternity leave. Another girlfriend of mine was laid off the same day as her husband received his layoff notice. My mom, MIL and SIL all tell me that there’s no “right time” to have a baby. But with so many people losing their jobs and the uncertainty of whether or not you or your partner will have a job to go to the next day, my mind thinks it’s probably not the best time for us. So, we’ve decided to wait a while. And a recent post in New York Times Motherlode blog shows a trend of more women doing the same. But what about women who, for one reason or another, don’t have the time to wait?

How about you? How is the economy affecting your family plans?

How will the baby affect our relationship?

Thursday, January 8th, 2009

After the baby is born I wonder how long it will be until my husband and I go to a movie or out to dinner. How old will the baby be before I feel comfortable leaving him/her with a relative or babysitter for a night out. At the moment we can accept an invitation to get together with friends any night of the week. RSVP, “yes” to a wedding that’s an hour away or plan a vacation and pack one small suitcase.

It seems people like to ask how I’m sleeping lately. When I say, “just fine” the standard come-back is usually, “well enjoy it while you can.” Oh, zip-it! I know they’re right, but I hate hearing that. How will sleep deprivation affect my relationship with my husband and our ability to be patient or affectionate? I don’t know yet. I hear all the time that couples need to make time for each other. But realistically, especially in the beginning, is that possible?

Before I got pregnant, I thought about the emotional and lifestyle changes we’ll face as parents. We both decided that we were ready for this. Now that my due date is right around the corner it’s really setting in though. Our independence and free time will NEVER be what it once was. Are you having or thinking about having a baby? Do you worry about this stuff, too?

Fertility tracking methods

Thursday, December 11th, 2008

If your periods are irregular and you want to figure out the best time to try to conceive, try a fertility tracking method. They can help you determine when you’re ovulating. Talk to your health care provider about the most effective ways to use them.

The temperature method – use a basal body thermometer to take your temperature every day before you get out of bed. Your temperature will rise one degree as you ovulate. Having intercourse as close as possible to this temperature rise improves your chances of getting pregnant.

The cervical mucus method – pay attention to the mucus in your vagina. It gets thinner, slippery, clearer and increases just before ovulation

Ovulation prediction kit – Ovulation prediction kits test urine for a substance called luteinizing hormone (LH). This hormone increases each month during ovulation and causes the ovaries to release eggs. The kit will tell you of your LH is increasing. You can purchase ovulation prediction kits at pharmacies.

If you use the temperature or cervical mucus method, begin tracking changes a few months before you want to conceive. If you’re using an ovulation predictor kit, begin using it about ten days after the start of your last period.