Posts Tagged ‘crying’

“Why am I crying all the time?”

Thursday, December 22nd, 2016

cryingIf you’re pregnant, you may notice that tears come more easily to you. One of my pregnant friends started crying as she watched a Flintstones cartoon rerun of Pebbles and Bam-Bam as they got married. Another girlfriend burst into tears while watching a pet adoption commercial!  You may find that you cry much more easily at events or situations that previously would never have made you shed a tear.

What causes the extra tears?

Your changing hormones.

From the time you conceive, the hormones estrogen and progesterone start rising. This increase in your hormones causes changes in the chemicals that send signals to your brain to regulate your mood. You may find yourself crying more often or becoming irritated easily. These mood swings are a normal part of pregnancy, especially in the first trimester.

New responsibilities and impending life changes.

A lot is happening in preparation for your newest addition and your to-do list just got longer, especially if you are pregnant around the holidays. The change may be welcomed, but it can also make you feel stressed. The realization that your baby will be entirely dependent on you soon  can seem overwhelming.

Ways to cope

  • Join our online community Share Your Story. You may find it helpful to connect and talk with other women going through a similar experience – you may even find someone getting teary eyed at the same rerun episode.
  • Try to get a good night’s sleep every day or take cat naps.  Getting enough Zzzs will help you handle any irritation or stress that comes your way.
  • Eat healthy meals and snacks.
  • Try relaxation activities, like prenatal yoga or meditation. Or squeeze a walk into your afternoon – even ten minutes of brisk walking can reduce stress!
  • Chat with your prenatal care provider. Often, just voicing your concerns and listening to a trusted professional can be enormously calming.

Fortunately, many women find their moods become more manageable in the second trimester. But, if you find you are feeling down or have symptoms of depression that last more than two weeks, or are feeling overly stressed, speak with your prenatal provider. There is much that can be done to help you feel better.

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Do you know your baby’s different cries?

Wednesday, April 15th, 2015

infant cryingYes…babies cry a lot; but, they cry for a reason. Your baby may be hungry, have a dirty diaper or he may not feel well. He may need to burp, have gas in his tummy, or simply need to be cuddled (which is a really good reason to cry). Crying is the only way your baby can tell you that he needs something. It is his language before he can speak.

Soon you will learn to recognize the differences in your baby’s cries. His cries will not all sound the same. The “I’m tired and need to go to sleep” cry will sound different from the “Ouch – my diaper rash hurts” cry. Likewise, the cries due to hunger will sound somewhat different from the cry when a stranger holds your baby. The more you pay attention to the slight variations in cries, the more you will learn to anticipate and react to your baby’s needs.

Do preemies cry more often than full term babies?

Some studies show that premature babies are more likely to be fussy than babies who are born full term. They may be harder to soothe, cry often, and have trouble eating and sleeping. If your baby is fussy, it may be comforting to know that you are not alone. Some babies who have been in the NICU have trouble getting used to the quiet of home. Your baby may sleep better with some background music or a low level of noise in your home.

Remember to never shake your baby when he cries—this can seriously hurt him. If you can’t soothe your baby or you think he cries way too much, talk to his health care provider. Babies can get sick very quickly and the sooner you seek medical attention, the quicker your baby will get better.

What if your baby cries constantly?

Your baby’s doctor can also tell you if he thinks your baby may have colic, which is intense crying lasting more than 3 hours a day. About 1 in 5 babies develop colic – usually between 1 and 4 months of age. They cry constantly, often extending or pulling up their legs or passing gas. Sometimes their tummies are enlarged with air and gas.

There’s no one cause of colic, but there are many different ways to ease your baby’s discomfort. One way is to walk him in a soft-sided baby carrier that you strap to the front of your body. You can also try laying him tummy-down across your knees and gently rubbing his back. The pressure against his tummy may relieve his discomfort.

Breastfeeding moms can ask their baby’s health care providers about a change in food choices or eliminating specific foods that may cause your baby discomfort. Keep in mind that colic usually disappears by 4 months of age, no matter what treatments you try.

Remember Mom

As important as it is to care for your baby, it is also important to care for yourself. Moms of babies who have colic or are very fussy are often sleep deprived. Enlist the help of your partner, relatives and friends, so that you can take time out to sleep, eat well and even go for a stress busting walk. The time you spend nourishing your body and mind will help give you the patience to deal with your crying baby.

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Teething and fevers

Tuesday, April 19th, 2011

crying-baby1Many Moms report that their baby develops a fever while teething. Their baby was fine, no fever, and then he starts teething and whammo!  Baby now has a fever, is irritable, crying and sick. So, they reason, the teething caused the fever…right?

As much as this seems to be an obvious cause and effect type of event, it has not been medically proven that teething can or does cause high fevers. In fact, it is accepted in the medical field that teething does NOT cause fevers. According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, “Teething occasionally may cause mild irritability, crying, a low-grade temperature (but not over 101 degrees Fahrenheit or 38.3 degrees Celsius), excessive drooling, and a desire to chew on something hard.” (see   )

By blaming teething for a fever, it is possible you may miss diagnosing an important problem that needs treatment. A fever is an indication that something is wrong – an infection, flu, virus, the ever miserable ear infection, or something else.  If your baby has a fever (whether or not he is teething), contact his health care provider.  You can read more about fevers on our blog, here. A baby may begin teething between 4 and 7 months of age, and the process continues until all teeth have come in.  It seems logical that when a baby is teething, he will undoubtedly put his fingers in his mouth, rub his gums, and put more toys in his mouth in an effort to stop the pain.

As a result, he may be more likely to become sick from the extra germs he picked up. Your teething baby will be more susceptible to infections and diseases, because the antibodies that he gained from Mom during infancy and his early months of breastfeeding, are now wearing off. He is becoming less protected from the germs of the outside world, so he will begin to “catch” colds and other infections. This is his body’s way of building up his own immunities against diseases. So, in a weird way, this is a good thing.

For tips on what you can do to decrease teething discomfort, view this short factsheet on teething from the American Academy of Pediatrics.   So, the bottom line is to be aware of any changes in your baby’s behavior. If you are concerned, or he has a fever,  take him to the doc. Once your baby feels better, you will feel better, too.


Friday, January 1st, 2010

90915564_thbIf your baby cries and cries, no matter how you try to comfort her, the cause may be colic. About one-in-five babies develop colic – usually between one and four months of age. They cry constantly, often extending or pulling up their legs, or passing gas. Sometimes their tummies are enlarged with air and gas from crying. There’s no one cause of colic, but there are many different ways to ease your baby’s discomfort. One way is to walk her in a soft-sided baby carrier that you strap to the front of your body. You can also try laying her tummy-down across your knees and gently rubbing her back. The pressure against her tummy may relieve her discomfort. Breastfeeding moms can ask their pediatricians about a change in diet or eliminating specific foods since your baby’s colic may stem from . Keep in mind that colic usually disappears by four months of age, no matter what treatments you try. For more information from American Academy of Pediatrics, click here .

Colic in babies linked to depression in dads

Friday, July 10th, 2009

colic-baby-and-dadAccording to my mother in law, my husband was quite a crier as a newborn. She says that the only one who could comfort my colic hubby was his dad. I’m glad my father in law was able to soothe his crying baby. But since my hubby and I plan on having a baby one day, I hope our little one doesn’t have colic like her dad once did! Even though lots of babies may have colic, researchers still aren’t totally sure why some babies have it, and others don’t. Some babies may cry a lot because of gas or allergic reactions, but others have colic for no clear reason.

Interestingly, a large study from the Netherlands found that dads who were depressed during their baby’s time in the womb were more likely to have babies with colic. In the past, studies have found a link between mothers with depression during pregnancy and newborns with colic. But this is one of the first studies to see if there’s a relationship between a dad’s depression and his colic baby.

The study, published in this month’s Pediatrics journal, shows that the researchers made sure to find out if dads were depressed before the baby was born. This way, the researchers would know that dad’s depression wasn’t caused by baby’s excessive crying.  But it did show that if a dad was depressed before the baby was born, he was more likely to have a baby with colic. The researchers aren’t sure exactly why this is, but it’s interesting that there’s a relationship.

How did you manage a colic baby?

Breath holding

Friday, December 26th, 2008

Is super sensitive Suzie given to crying with a quavering lip when she accidentally whacks her knee, then ratcheting up the volume ‘til she turns red in the face, then blue? Is Abigail always afraid of surprises to the point where she forgets to breathe? Does your terrorist toddler Tommy seek revenge for the “No” you just delivered by throwing a tantrum and holding his breath ‘til he passes out?  OK, not to worry.

Seriously, a brief loss of consciousness is not a rare event with 1-2 year olds and is nature’s way of bypassing a disruptive attitude and resetting a child’s respiratory clock – in other words, it starts them breathing again.  Your child will not be hurt by this, but you might be a bit of a basket case watching it all.  What’s important as a parent is first to make sure it’s not a seizure (they can look similar), so discuss the first episode with your child’s doc.  Once it is established that it is breath holding, try to pay little attention to it and let nature take its course.  If you have a bright and somewhat manipulative little guy (kids learn fast!), do not give in to the threat of a breath holding blackout, otherwise your child can become mighty spoiled.