Posts Tagged ‘daddy’

Fathers – thanks you guys

Friday, June 14th, 2013

dad-with-sonWhen your child is tired, do you carry him? When she skins her knee, do you kiss the booboo and make it better? Do you play “up in the air” or rock them if they’re colicky? Do you worry when they’re sick? Do you change their diapers when they’re really ripe? Do you make an emergency diaper run when you’re suddenly down to your last two?

Can’t cook? No problem. Do you let your little ones climb up in your lap to share a bowl of ice cream with you? Who wouldn’t love that?

Reading not your thing? No problem. Do you flop down on your child’s bed and make up stories? I’ll never forget my father doing that. laughing-baby

Not an outdoorsy kind of person? No problem. Do you lie in the grass some times and point to the fluffy cloud that looks like a giraffe… “Can you see it?” Or look at the stars at night and sing “Twinkle, twinkle” to your little one?

bike-lessonsCan’t throw a ball? No problem. Do you tell your children “I love to watch you play?” Can you help them ride a bike? It means the world to them.

Are your children a little older? Can’t figure out the “new math” or the computer programs? No problem. Do you ask them to explain it to you? Our grandkids are light years ahead of us and they love explaining to Grandpa how things work. He turns to me and asks, “Were we ever half that smart?”

You don’t need to be brilliant or an athlete or a movie star. If you show them you love them, you’ll always be a superhero to your children.hero

Dads: Getting ready for baby

Thursday, June 17th, 2010

dad-and-bellyWhen I first learned about our baby-to-be, I was thrilled! I’d already started living a healthier lifestyle before getting pregnant, like getting to a healthy weight and taking a multivitamin with folic acid. But now more than ever, I’m very cautious about what I eat, my environment and my activities. I want to be sure I’m doing everything I can so that baby is healthy and safe during the pregnancy.

Interestingly, my dear husband is going through his own daddy-to-be phase. In the last few weeks, I’ve noticed him getting around to those household projects that were always on the bottom of his list, like cleaning out the air filters, fixing the floor molding, even helping out with daily chores like the laundry and dishes. We only have one car; a little two-seater convertible that’s been the envy of our friends for years. But, with the baby coming, my husband has thrown himself into issue after issue of Motor Trend and Consumer Reports magazines to identify the safest, most efficient family vehicle. You’d think he’s writing his Ph.D. dissertation with all of the research and notes he’s taking! But all of it is very cute to see 🙂 .

Even my own dad, a soon-to-be grandpa, is making lifestyle changes. He’s started to eat healthier and get more exercise so that he’ll be in great shape to play with his new grandbaby this winter.

USA Today had an article about the new dad phase, specifically about dads being more cautious and sensible as they get ready for baby. Did anyone else see a similar change with the dad-to-be in their life?

Guest Post: Growing Into “Dad”

Friday, June 19th, 2009

james-soohoo-and-babyMy name is James and I am the host of the March of Dimes community for NICU parents (www.share.marchofdimes.org).

In honor of Father’s Day, I have a confession. Very few people know this, but I didn’t have that BIG moment when my son took his first breaths. The nurse whisked him away quickly to clean him up. When she was done, she tried to hand him to me and I backed up a little and said “no thank you.”

Later that night when my wife finally had her room, they wheeled his little…well, I’m not sure what it was (it looked a little like a hamster cage) over to us. She picked him up and held him. It was probably a beautiful moment that I wasn’t paying attention to. Instead I looked at my watch, wondering how to gauge the appropriate length of time I needed to stay in the room without calling attention to myself. I figured 20 minutes. I lasted 17.

The next day wasn’t much better. I could have been back at the hospital by 8:30 am. I was up and ready to go, but managed to find things to do at home. I arrived at 2pm and that was because my mother-in-law doesn’t have a car and needed me to drive.

When I got there, I was terrified and ambivalent. I knew my life had changed. “Dad” was a word that I didn’t know how to wear. It was like trying on my father’s clothing. Not only that, but it was clothing that was too big for me.

I would like to, of course, report that when I did finally walk through the doorway…that it was instantly better. It would get much better as the days passed and I can say that I absolutely adore my sons and love being a father and wouldn’t go back for all of the money in the world.

That day…well, my wife handed him to me and I instantly felt weak and needed to sit. My brother took a quick picture and I briefly managed a half smile but what I was thinking was “what is the appropriate length of time I need to sit here, holding him, without causing attention to myself.” I lasted 45 seconds.

Dads-to-be gaining pregnancy weight, too?

Thursday, June 18th, 2009

dad-and-bellyWhen I first moved in with my husband years ago, I began to notice that my clothes were feeling a little tighter and I was jiggling in places that I hadn’t really jiggled before. I was happy to be living with the man I loved, but the weight I gained was a little too much to be “happy” pounds. I quickly realized that being around him and his cheeseburger-and-french-fries and kung-pow-chicken take out dinner orders weren’t helping me to keep a healthy diet. And it was hard to be satisfied with a grilled chicken salad when a juicy New York Strip steak was staring at me from across the table. Since then, I’ve managed to introduce new healthy foods in both of our diets. But the experience made me wonder: how much does one partner’s eating habits affect the other’s?

A couple weeks ago, the New York Times Motherload blog mentioned a British poll that found some men in Britain gain an average of about 14 pounds during their partner’s pregnancy. The respondents attributed the weight gain to a number of reasons: 1) eating out more often; 2) more “pregnancy” snacks around the house; and 3) eating more food and in larger portions so mommy-to-be won’t feel so bad for eating a big meal. Pretty interesting, right?

Pregnancy weight gain is just one of the sympathy pains I’ve heard that some fathers-to-be can experience. Alongside pregnant moms, some dads may also experience nausea, back pain, fatigue and food cravings.

Mommies, did your partner experience sympathy pains during your pregnancy? Daddies, what “pregnancy pains” did you find yourself having?