Posts Tagged ‘fatherhood’

A father’s role in the NICU

Tuesday, June 18th, 2013

NICU dadYour beautiful baby has arrived. But he or she was born prematurely or is sick, and needs special care. Your joy over your baby’s birth may be mixed with worry and heartache. This is not how you expected fatherhood to begin.

The birth of a premature or sick baby is stressful and difficult for all family members. But it can be especially rough on you. You may worry about your baby and your partner, as well as other children at home, demands from your job and financial concerns. While each father develops his own way of coping with the birth of a premature or sick infant, this information may help make this difficult time a bit easier.

You may feel many conflicting emotions after your baby is born. These emotions, from anxiety and fear to anger and resentment, love and pride, helplessness and hope, can be very intense. All of the feelings are normal and most men experience some of them. As your baby gets stronger, your negative feelings may lessen. Expect this to be an emotional roller coaster ride for a while.

Keep in mind that the birth of a sick child can put stress on the relationship between you and your partner, as well as your relationships with other family members. It’s important to share your feelings with your partner through your baby’s illness, so that you can support each other and come through this experience a stronger team.

Read more about keeping your relationship strong, ways to help your partner and your baby, how to let others help you and how to take care of yourself in our article for dads. Being a NICU dad can be difficult, especially if your baby is very sick. You should take pride in all the things you do to help your baby and your partner, and realize that you are making a difference.

Fathers – thanks you guys

Friday, June 14th, 2013

dad-with-sonWhen your child is tired, do you carry him? When she skins her knee, do you kiss the booboo and make it better? Do you play “up in the air” or rock them if they’re colicky? Do you worry when they’re sick? Do you change their diapers when they’re really ripe? Do you make an emergency diaper run when you’re suddenly down to your last two?

Can’t cook? No problem. Do you let your little ones climb up in your lap to share a bowl of ice cream with you? Who wouldn’t love that?

Reading not your thing? No problem. Do you flop down on your child’s bed and make up stories? I’ll never forget my father doing that. laughing-baby

Not an outdoorsy kind of person? No problem. Do you lie in the grass some times and point to the fluffy cloud that looks like a giraffe… “Can you see it?” Or look at the stars at night and sing “Twinkle, twinkle” to your little one?

bike-lessonsCan’t throw a ball? No problem. Do you tell your children “I love to watch you play?” Can you help them ride a bike? It means the world to them.

Are your children a little older? Can’t figure out the “new math” or the computer programs? No problem. Do you ask them to explain it to you? Our grandkids are light years ahead of us and they love explaining to Grandpa how things work. He turns to me and asks, “Were we ever half that smart?”

You don’t need to be brilliant or an athlete or a movie star. If you show them you love them, you’ll always be a superhero to your children.hero