This post is dedicated to all dads, in honor of Father’s Day.
Fatherhood is not supposed to start in a NICU.
When the birth of your baby is unexpectedly early or if your child has medical issues, you may find yourself coping with the stress of having your baby in the hospital. The anxiety and fear about your baby’s special health care needs can be overwhelming. Add to that the emotions your partner may be experiencing, coordinating work, NICU visits, and possibly other children. It can be overwhelming.
But, a NICU dad is strong and resilient.
He spends time in the NICU holding his baby skin-to-skin (also called kangaroo care). He sings and talks to his baby.
He asks questions and makes decisions about his baby’s medical care. All while comforting mom, as she physically and emotionally heals from pregnancy and childbirth.
He is reassuring and comforting to the mother of his child, as she physically and emotionally heals from pregnancy and childbirth.
As mom copes with fluctuating hormones, a NICU dad encourages her to pump breastmilk, if she can, and reassures her that she is doing the very best she can.
If there are other children at home, dad becomes the coordinator of the home front. He makes lunches, runs kids to school, helps with homework, and reassures the children that mom will be home soon. Dad takes care of pets, cleans, grocery shops and hopefully delegates tasks to family members and friends to help out.
Through it all, it can be hard for a dad to take care of himself. He needs sleep, good food and breaks to exercise and relax. It’s important that he takes the time to re-fuel so that he can be the best champion for his baby that he can be. Relying on friends and family to help may not come naturally at first, but a NICU dad soon learns that it takes an army to get everything done.
Although becoming a dad in the NICU was not the original plan, every path to fatherhood is unique. It has its own rewards and lessons. March of Dimes recognizes every dad’s efforts and dedication. We know that every dad is making a difference in his baby’s life. Dads are important, appreciated and very much loved!
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My husband was at work the day that my water broke at 25 weeks (May 10,2015). He pulled up to our house after work to find me being loaded into an ambulance (his phone was on vibrate and I couldn’t get ahold of him when it happened). From this moment until the day we brought our little girl home (September 10, 2015) my husband was the ultimate superdad! Working full time 2 hours aways from me, going on no sleep, and packed our house to move out while I was still in the hospital, unpacked our house and moved us in to our new house after I had undergone and emergency c-section. I could not have asked for any better a man to be by my side thru this whole scary roller coaster ride. He is my everything on top of being the best dad on the planet (in my book)!
I love this! My husband is for sure a super dad. He goes to work every day and at the end of every day he comes to the hospital were I stay all day and holds his little girl. He goes home and put my pump together. He does laundry and does the shopping and when I spend the day crying he holds me and keeps it all together. I could not ask for a better friend, husband, or father.
Thanks so much for telling us about your Superdads. They sound amazing!
Our twins were born at 26.3 wks in another state where Gestational carrier lived. When they were born, we basically moved to be near them. My mom and I flew to where they were while my husband packed up our car so we would have something to drive, then drove the 22 hrs, alone to get to us. He let me be stay with our babies while he made all the arrangements to find a hospital, pediatrician and made flight arrangements so that when they were strong enough, we could move them to a NICU closer to our home. He took care of everything so all I had to do was be with our babies.