When you have a child with special needs, your mind tends to always center on the milestones you hope your child will achieve, and often forget that there are many things your child can already do, and often do very well. It’s so easy to get wrapped up in therapy and homework. Often, you only see the areas that need improvement, and don’t see (for lack of time or energy) the areas of talent or achievement. (Does this sound familiar?) When this happens, it is time to pause and breathe. And better yet, change your focus to take time to celebrate.
My daughter always loved to dance – you name the kind -she did it. Then that passion moved to drama, which is where she really found her niche. As a tiny tot, she used to memorize the dialogue to different shows or movies, and then act them out with her dolls, word for word. Later in high school, she joined the theater troupe. For a kid who had a speech and language delay, seeing her speak on a stage (often reciting Shakespeare), was mind boggling to me. Theater was her passion, and despite any struggle she was experiencing at the time, her dancing or theater pulled her through, and ended her day on a happy note. Even now, as she is a young adult, she participates in community theater productions.
Keep introducing your child to new things
All children have interests and passions. Does your child take things apart and then put them back together? He may be mechanically inclined. Does he build spectacular Lego cities and characters? He may become an architect or builder one day. Does your child dress in awesome couture-like outfits, draw, paint, play an instrument, enjoy storytelling, or participate in sports? You get my point – the list is endless and the possibilities are limitless. If you do not see a passion at the moment, keep introducing her to new things and watch as one emerges.
Very often, your child’s passion can be cultivated so that it becomes more than just a pastime. But even if it doesn’t become something more substantial, the accomplishment of any hobby or interest is something to celebrate. Cultivating a talent is a process. Like a flowering bulb pushing up through the spring earth, one doesn’t know what color the blossom will be, or how big or sweet the smell. You just have to water it and give it sun and protection, and then watch as it blooms on its own.
So, this is a gentle reminder to pause, breathe and focus on the positive moments in your little one’s life. Then, sit back and enjoy the moment as you see your little one in a whole new light.
What is your child’s passion? How did you help her to find it? Please share your tips.
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